Friday, April 15, 2016

You won't believe what grew in Grandpa's garden

The weather is delightful here in St. Louis, 78 degrees and sunny. Hubby tilled his vegetable garden and is itching to get his crop of tomatoes and peppers planted. Our weather is unpredictable and usually  everyone waits at least until April 30th to put in tomato plants.

I am reminded of a time many years ago when our first grandchildren were young. Kyle was three and Ashley was seven when they helped plant

Grandpa’s Garden

published in The Ultimate Gardener, HCI Communications, Inc.  2009

       Along with a healthy crop of tomatoes and peppers, one season compassion grew in my husband’s garden.  After our children grew up and married, we moved into a condo. When our grandchildren started arriving, we purchased a small ranch house with an even smaller back yard. Although we gave up the luxury of a community pool, we absolutely felt like we had traded up. We were thrilled with the 6’x15’ patch of rich, dark soil at the far corner of our backyard. Bill had his idea of gardening, and I had mine. We couldn’t wait to get our hands in the dirt. He had grandiose visions of a garden boasting the reddest, roundest and plumpest tomatoes, and crunchy green and yellow peppers. He even generously planted a few extra tomato bushes for the wildlife and neighbors. I envisioned my garden as a small artist’s palette of petunias, marigolds and miniature rose bushes – just a strip of soil along the perimeter of the patio. It was very satisfying planting, nurturing and watching our gardens grow.
       When the tomatoes and peppers were ripe, our grandchildren couldn’t wait to help Grandpa

pick his veggies. Kyle, then three, nibbled as many elongated banana peppers as he picked, and

Ashley, then seven, harvested tomatoes until they overflowed the crook in her arm. They ate ripe,

red, juicy tomatoes as if they were apples. Forget the toy box in the guest room. The kids were

anxious to get into grandpa’s garden every time they came for a visit that first summer. Bill

showed them how to walk on the stepping stones between the rows, and he taught them about

roots and shoots, leaves and stems. Every visit was a hands-on, fingers-in-the-soil nature lesson

when they came to our house.

“We love it in Grandpa’s Garden,” they both said. They loved the dirt, the worms and the buried

treasure they discovered.

      One late fall day, they came for a visit and ran out the back door. They stopped abruptly in

their tracks. My flowers had all withered, and Grandpa’s garden was barren; he had ripped out all

of the plants.  Devastated, they stood on the dry earth and cried, “Our garden!”  Bill, a hulking six

foot two, two-hundred-fifty-pounder knelt down in the dirt beside the children. At their eye-level,

and with a gentle touch, he consoled them as he explained the life cycle of plants. He told them

to expect a new crop next year, and he promised them that they could even help him plant in the

spring.

      In March, spring teased our town with a premature warm snap. Bill tilled the rich earth in his

shirt sleeves in the hot sun; he was as anxious as the kids to dig in the dirt. He was wise enough

to know that a frost would destroy a prematurely planted tomato crop. Each time Ashley and

Kyle arrived they’d plead with him to plant the garden. Together they counted the days until May

15th, when they could plant again without the threat of frost.

      The week before the scheduled planting, unexpectedly, Bill had to have foot surgery and

was incapacitated. The planting had to be delayed two more weeks. Patience is not a child’s

virtue. So Grandpa gave them permission to go dig in his garden when they came to visit. I

handed each of them a big serving spoon and they happily darted outside. Every now and then

they came in to share a treasure they had unearthed. Then they’d rush back to the garden for

more fun. This went on for over an hour; the adults were content to stay inside and the kids

happily played outside. The last time they came in, they lingered in the guest room a little

longer than usual; then they slipped out the back door unnoticed for more fun in Grandpa’s

garden.

      When I peeked out the kitchen window to check on them, I gasped. Ashley and Kyle were

tromping though the plot of dirt, bent over, each of them digging and planting. There were

hundreds of flowers in full bloom, an array in every color and in every variety imaginable. A

rainbow of flowers blanketed more than two thirds of  Grandpa’s garden and they were still at it!

    
“Bill, come quick! You have to see this.” He hobbled to the window and chuckled loudly.

     “What are you kids doing?” he called.
     “We’re helping you, Paw-Paw, ‘cause your foot’s hurt,” Kyle said.

     “Yeah, Grandpa, we’re planting your garden for you!” Ashley exclaimed proudly.
     I soon discovered what they had discovered in the guest room. They had sneaked outside

with my shopping bag which was filled with an assortment of artificial flowers. I had intended

to use them with my preschool classes for a combined science, arts and crafts project. Bill and

I laughed with delight at the brilliant crazy quilt of fake flowers they had stuck in the dirt, a

compassionate gift, intended for their recuperating grandpa. 

      The grandchildren, now fifteen and eighteen, fondly remember playing Grandpa’s Garden.

Kyle grows his own tomatoes and peppers each summer, and eighteen year old Ashley still has

an affinity for pastel flowers - only now, they come from her boyfriend. Thanks to ‘Grandpa’s

Garden’ they both developed a deep appreciation for the good earth and what it can produce.

One very special grandpa planted the seeds of love that sprouted a crop of compassion.


Kyle is now almost 23 and Ashley is almost 27, and still this memory holds a special place in all our hearts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday, April 10, 2016

Simple reminders a peek into the past

I am not advertising for Zulily, but when I saw this ad pop up on my Facebook page, I envisioned my mom. This is the style of dress she liked and looked so cute in when she was young and 5'2". Every time I look at this photo I see my sweet little mom's face and the way she held herself so tall, chin high, bright-eyed, smiling, teased hairdo. This image takes me back so many years and makes me feel melancholy.

Strange how clothing can resurrect memories. When I saw a man walk into a restaurant wearing suspenders, I envisioned my step dad. He loved his suspenders and wore them even with his undershirts when he was in the house. He was not heavy and did not require suspenders to hold up his pants. Just something he liked.

When he was older and suffering from forgetfulness, he would shuffle along and slowly navigate a shopping cart up and down the aisles of Aldi's, carefully selecting the best bargains.

Mom, wiry and impulsive, was always wishing he'd hurry up. Pops wished she'd go wait in my car, which she often did, as I was their transportation. I had to listen to her impatient prattling.

"He's so slow. I could have it all in the cart and packed up by now!"
I'd say, "Leave him alone. He loves this."
She'd say, "I'm going in there and tell him to come on!"
I'd ask, "Why? It will only frustrate him. Calm down."

Then we'd chat until she thought again about how pokey he was. I'd say, "What good is it going to do to go in there and frustrate him?"

She'd agree. We'd belly ache or brag some more about my kids and grandkids.

There's a brand new Aldi's grocery store being built in our neighborhood. So many reminders...so many wonderful blessed memories. Today I am missing my parents. This morning I wanted to pick up the phone and call my mom. Does that ever happen to you?

 

Sunday, April 3, 2016

Never lose hope


My favorite beach photograph hangs above the couch in our living room. When I gaze at it, I visualize the beauty of the area and remember the elation I felt that day. We were heading home, and I didn't want to leave. I love Navarre, Florida. The beaches are pristeen. Our vacation had been wonderful. I took home enough memories to refill my happy reservoir for another year.

Years ago we used to camp on the tip of a barrier island right down the road, at Ft. Pickens State Park, in Pensacola Beach.

This picture reminds me of the fragility of life. In a heartbeat, the road was wiped out by Hurricane Katrina, and there were no road repair funds for many years. The web site claimed the only way to the campground was by personal water craft or a strenuous 8 mile bike ride and climb over giant dunes which were created when the sand was displaced. We did not attempt either.

A year after the destruction, we drove down the road as far as we could go. Evidence of devastation was everywhere: piles of rubble lay curbside...complete hotels and homes in heaps at the curb. Not an exaggeration. Swimming pools were filled to the brim with sand, making them indistinguishable from land. Huge dunes scattered with metal debris were plowed twenty feet high at the edge of the sea, obstructing our view of the bay and the slapping waves of the Gulf water. I bawled at the residents' loss and suffering. The area looked like a war zone. The signs posted added insult to injury: Debris must be removed by tourist season which is weeks away.

Five years later, the washed out sea level roads, were finally repaired, restored, or replaced. We asked the park ranger if we could drive through the campground for old times sake. "Everything's closed. No restoration yet." She allowed us a quick drive through.

Every single thing was crusted white with salt and sand. Dead live oaks were stripped of branches. Palms with fronds white as snow bent to the ground. Electric box doors on individual camp sites were ripped off. Some hung open wide in a silent roar.

Our red pick up truck was the only bright color in the campground. Lost in our own thoughts, memories, and mourning, we got out with our cameras. I wanted to take home a sea shell, but I knew if I did I would feel like a grave yard thief.

 I walked on and recalled memories of a campground filled to capacity, where children's voices once rang out until sundown, and evening camp fire smoke lifted hopes, dreams, and prayers to the heavens. Odors of grilling hot dogs and burgers rode smoke plumes into the tree tops and permeated the entire area.

I was focused on the eye-level images when I heard a squeal. I recognized it as a captured memory of those happy days when kids peppered campsites and the beach. A time when a rainbow of colorful umbrellas and chairs looked like spilled splotches of paint up and down the sugary strip of sand.

"Did you hear that?" I asked Bill when I heard the familiar squeals again. "Or is my mind playing tricks?"





We looked high up into the cluster of dead trees and spied this nest. A bald eagle, I thought with excitement. Then I realized it was a young osprey. The presence of the male and female perched and screeching nearby, reminded me of the tenacity it takes to forge on, and the trust required to rebuild anywhere, much less in a tip top fork of a dead tree.

 We stood in that forsaken campground and ballyhooed back and forth at one another.

I was reminded of the comfort and protection young ones feel at the sight of their parents.
The promises of our heavenly father, even when all hope is gone. I began to count my blessings.

 Hope and renewal... regardless.

                                                          

Friday, April 1, 2016

Only In America!

 
My story, The Feelings Flag, will appear in this book which will be released on June 7th. The story, which some of you know, is close to my heart. On 9/11 when unspeakable horror was occurring, and when nobody knew what to say or do, I was a pre K teacher, housed in a middle school. I acted on impulse in order to give the older students a voice.

I submitted several stories for this collection, but they were not accepted. I will seek other homes for them. I am ever grateful, as this is the 24th Chicken Soup title in which my stories have been published.

Never give up hope. Nobody buys all the clothes on a rack, and most writers don't sell everything they write. Rejection is often about editorial needs rather than your writing. So write on!
Chicken Soup for the Soul is looking for stories about The Joy of Christmas and also stories on dogs and cats. Just start writing your thoughts down and soon you may see a story take shape.

                                         Four generations on a very windy Easter morning.
                                  My daughter Tracey, Granddaughter Ashley, Liam and me. 

Wednesday, March 30, 2016

What a wild three days it has been.

My apologies. I have been remiss in posting anything about writing. And these photos will explain why. Sunday we had a houseful of our children and their children.
 
I have been spending quality time with grandchildren who are on spring break. I took Nicholas and Nicole to breakfast, and we had the best blueberry pancakes in town. We went to Sky Zone, a fun high energy zapping place filled with trampolines. One area is for forward flipping into a foam pit, another is for dodge ball, another for basketball and so on. Nicole was like a little monkey. 
Nicholas who just turned 14 (I cannot believe it!) bounced and bounced, and is very competitive. He had a blast! After that, it was time for lunch and ice cream with Gramps, and then to his evening game of LaCrosse... a wild sport if I ever saw one. I am so thankful for all of our healthy grand children.
Of course my little darling, Liam, and I spent all day Monday together. I bought him a Little Tykes truck at the Goodwill store. He hauled a big rubber baby boy doll in the bed of the truck, and rode up and down the street. Semi truck drivers passing by honked their air horns at him and he tooted his little horn back at them and waved. I slept very well on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday.
Liam and I went to Suson Park in South County to see the farm animals. He loved the rooster that crowed at him, and he liked the turkey. We wanted to go into the barnyard to see the pigs and horses. We were disappointed to discover the barn was locked. But what a surprise to discover a man on a tractor transporting a pig in a crate. Liam watched wide-eyed as the driver raised the front end loader up high and lifted it over the fence and put the pig down in her pen and turned her loose. Liam and the pig squealed with glee.
Sometimes life is filled with unexpected surprises. A few moments ago I received an acceptance on a personal essay that will be published in Sasee May Issue, titled Becoming My Mom... in time for Mother's Day.

I have sent out ten submissions this month and want to share three free contests with you.

Adam@winningwriters.com is the email to send a humorous poem which has contest money attached, but no fees to pay. Isn't that a nice surprise?

And there is a call out for personal stories or poetry on how music has impacted you. Here is the link. Deadlines looming!   https://www.storiesofmusic.com/submit-a-story.html

And here's another with an April 15th deadlinehttp://trishhopkinson.com/2016/03/30/free-poetry-contest-350-in-cash-prizes-deadline-april-15-2016/
 

Thursday, March 24, 2016

That was some party!

 
Happy 80th Birthday to my twin aunts, Shirley and Dorothy.
 
 
They were born prematurely, weighing in at barely two pounds each. My grandma did everything in her power to keep those little girls alive. They were born at home, and Grandma kept them in cigar boxes, (my cousin said, but I always heard it was shoe boxes) on the oven door. Grandma heated bricks and surrounded the boxes with them to incubate her babies.

 
Speaking of babies. Liam saw the balloons and must have said the word, "balloon" a hundred times. Finally one of my cousins handed him one. He was absolutely in his glory. Coincidentally, there were four adult twins at the party from three different families: my aunts, one of their granddaughters-in-law, and my daughter-in law. 

Wow! What a flashback. I felt just like I did when I was a little kid. It was so noisy at Grandma's house when all my half Italian/half German aunts were talking at once. Imagine 40 people all yapping at once time about their memoires of the past. My aunts even got up and did a performance of their hand clapping childhood game and sang songs they remembered from their childhood. They had us in stitches.

What a blessing to be with my late mom's family; there were five generations present.

Our next get together will be this Sunday when the kids and grandkids come for Easter.  Can't wait!  

Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Rocketing to fame: local launch and presentations


A huge shout out to Dianna Graveman who photographed our multi-author Chicken Soup for the Soul panel presentation on Monday evening at Kisker Road Library in St. Charles, MO.

She and her husband and co author, Don, will be signing their new release at Main Street Books Saturday, March 26th from 2-4 p.m. Their book includes photos and pertinent information about local residents. It is sure to be a hit with anyone interested in St. Charles and its history. Stop by Saturday to pick up a copy and say hello to our famous hometown authors.


CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE SOUL PANEL PRESENTATION  
Donna Volkenannt, Linda O'Connell, Sherri Stanzyk, Pat Wahler, Sioux Roslawski, and Cathi LaMarche (not pictured) have published 70 plus stories in numerous Chicken Soup for the Soul books. They have all participated in book signings and panel presentations to promote their work.

It was inspiring to listen to how each of us found our ways into Chicken Soup for the Soul books. 
In 1999 I saw an article in our neighborhood newspaper seeking gardening stories for Chicken Soup for the Gardener's Soul. I have the blackest thumb, ever, and I even mess up when I try to help Mother Nature take care of her rooted-to-the-earth babies.

I was definitely not a gardener, and had nothing to contribute. Then I got to thinking. I had an experience they might consider, and it was about a flower. A long shot, I admit, but I was willing to take the chance. Read my first published Chicken Soup for the Soul story here. http://www.chickensoup.com/book-story/31853/14-the-golden-girls
  Click on the story to read it in its entirety.