Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Grammar Girl and Grandma's Girls

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This afternoon, I had lunch with my oldest granddaughter who will be 21 in October. I can hardly believe it! That precocious little blonde, blue-eyed girl was raised by three strong, mouthy women, and she learned quickly how to tell each of us (mom, nana and great-grandma) what we wanted to hear. I admire her so much because she is goal-oriented and intelligent and determined. I worry about her vulnerability, because when I look at her and listen to her, I see myself and past generations of women in our family. I am concerned that she will repeat our mistakes. Then, at the most unexpected times, like today at lunch, she pops up with some brilliant comment, like, "Nana, I'm happy. At least I recognize at a young age, what I'm getting myself into in my life, school, relationship, job etc. I will be fine." And somewhere deep in my soul, I know that she will.

I also saw the youngest granddaughter, two years old, this morning. I know she will experience the same bumps and bruises too, and I also know that despite my worries and possibly because of my influence, that little squirt will also be okay. The older I get, the more I realize that things works out, and I can't fix everything. I can finally let go and relax in the coming week. It is my time to take care of me, and have fun and enjoy these lazy, crazy, hazy days of summer. And that is what I intend to do.

"There is nothing better than being wrapped in a grandchild's hug or having your cheek moistened by granddaughter kisses."~ Linda O'Connell

7 comments:

Lynn said...

Nice post Linda - you're such a wonderful grandma!

irishoma said...

Thanks for sharing such a personal story. You are a wise and blessed woman.
Donna

K9friend said...

Great advice. I tend to be a mega-worrier. And all the worrying I do in reality doesn't change a thing.

Pat
www.critteralley.blogspot.com

Bookie said...

Yes,nice post. I was glad to read how you accept whatever...I am working on it. I have never wanted my children to stay near home, but urged them to go where they needed to go. However, these last few months, being so far from a first grandchild addeda twist...still accepted them being in Kentucky pretty well, but now we hear that another one is one the way for winter...and well, it seems to be getting harder dealing with empty nest when it never was an issue before. Glad you have yours nearby!

Linda O'Connell said...

Ladies, I am a worrier too, but I am finally at a stage in my life where I realize I am not in control, and no matter what advice I give, they are all going to do it their way.

Thank you all for following my blog. It makes me so happy to see a comment.

BECKY said...

Hi Linda! Yes, I totally agree. Growing older does have SOME benefits....like learning to not worry so much! I'm still trying to catch up on blog reading from about a week ago, I think! It's funny that I just read this one, too, because you mention a grammar site and I just discovered something humorous about a different grammar site.......

Julia said...

I think it took me about 46 years before I could say, "I'm happy." That is so beautiful.